Pay-It-Forward-2014

Can y'all tell that I am quiet excited to be back to this atmosphere? I am still trying to get a hang on commenting on every post I read but trust me I am catching up on my favorites blogs and its been great seeing what everyone is up to, all the kokoro gist and what not. I initially had a topic I wanted to post today but @ilola said we must all come back in 2014 and Ms. JB said "let's start a fire in blogsville come 2014" I YSU approve those messages!! 

Now on that note here is one to begin the year 2014 with and I hope y'all will participate and share the love...

I'm always happy to borrow a good idea. So in that spirit, I'm going to start this year off in a loving way. I'm participating in this Pay-It-Forward initiative-

*The first 5 people who comment on this blogpost with "I'm IN", will receive a surprise from me at some point in this calendar year - anything from a book, a ticket, a visit, something homegrown or made, a postcard, absolutely any surprise!

These 5 people in turn must make the same offer in their blog and distribute their own joy. Simply copy this text onto your next blogpost, so we can form a web of connection and kindness
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Let's do more nice and loving things for each other in 2014, without any reason other than to make each other smile and to show that we think of each other. Here's to a more enjoyable, more friendly, and love-filled year.

Love always
YSU

Give, and it will be given to you. Good measure, pressed down, shaken together, running over, will be put into your lap. For with the measure you use it will be measured back to you - Luke 6:38 

Then till Forever

At one, two, three, four, five, I knew one and only one thing

That my family loves me dearly

At six and seven I knew my siblings came because of love

At eight a friend claimed to be the best

At nine I realize love ones are not supposed to hurt you

At ten, I hated the word love and everything about it

At eleven the pain starts to heal and I forgot about it

At twelve I got my longest butterflies’ every time I see him

At thirteen these feelings still don’t change

At fourteen I thought I was lacking since every girl had lovers

At fifteen I literally found mine, except it was in my head

At sixteen I realized I just lied to myself

At seventeen I sat back and watch everything from afar

At eighteen he stole my heart and disvirgin my lips

At nineteen he realize I’m not the type of girl he thought

At twenty I may have been marketing myself wrong

At twenty one he told me I should stop acting as a child

Once again I gave him my heart only for it to be broken 

At Twenty-two I found the greatest friend and love

This time my heart was too stubborn to give itself away

And so it lied continuously until he left.

At twenty-three I realize the love from eight, nine and ten still hunt me daily

At twenty-four I fight to let it all go

At twenty-five I place my heart in God’s hands again

For Him to do with it as He wishes cause I alone have failed in the past


I chose to maximize my singlehood to the glory of His name again


At twenty-six He makes me the happiest woman on earth


From twenty-six to forever it is God,  him, children and I

xoxo
YSU

Love but once

How are you lovely bloggers doing today? 

So in the past weeks/month I have being telling myself how I do not want to meet anybody new anymore because of 6 degrees of separation. Apparently I never realize how small this world really is until this summer when the 6 degrees web became entangled. Sadly I'm the type who rather have a small circle of close friends that I could die for or die for me than a million who do not care and because my friends are very dear to me i can be selfish too which is sad.....Anyway let just say I failed in keeping to that promise and I met someone a few weeks ago...lets call him Mr. honest because that's what he is and pretty much with any topic. He is quite smart and intelligent so I have been learning some stuff some of which i agree with and others I do not so it looking like. Now we both comes from a very different background, point of views and things like that which triggers different view on different topic so watch out for more discussion topic this fall on here.

Alright I promise I'm done blabbing so moving on. LOVE hmm yeah that magic four letter words that makes people's head spin or at the same time makes the heart ache, the greatest thing ever created, yeah that one So I was talking to Mr. Honest the other day about love, relationship and all that stuff and there was one word he something he said that somewhat caught my attention. His words: 'I think/believe you fall in love once' ...Not quite sure the exact words he said but it was something along those line. Now considering the fact that he's been in a relationship with one girl that he loves for a very very long time I thought that was a very cute statement and believes because its shows a level of commitment to her and dreams to marry her.   At first I really did like the sentence but after our conversation the thoughts came over my head again and in some way I no longer agree with it. There where questions running through my head. What happen if I marry someone and God forbid he died a year or two does that mean I will be single for life?...How about the fiance that choose to break up after does that mean I have no hope for love again? With questions like that I had to disagree with that statement although I really do understand where Honest was coming from when he said it.

Yes you can truly love one person with your whole heart but I do not believe you can't love another or fall in love again. I do not know what the percentage is but I'd like to say many people do not always end up marrying their first love (Correct me if I'm wrong).  Love is a growth among two people overtime, they either grow together or grow apart. I mean someone you love at the age of 17/18 might not be the one you love around 25/26 because you may have matured in a way that something that made you love that person at that tender age is no longer important because of your personal growth and development. Its just that at different times in your life, there are different people that are right for you. Now I'm not saying that you can't love a person you loved at a younger age because if you both grow and change together you will continue to remain in love. 


Arguably your first love is probably the most intense, but that does not mean that person will be your one true love. 


I guess arguably your first love is your most intense, but that doesn't mean that person will be your One True Love. I think you can certainly fall in love more than once though each situation is different and unique and would never be the same as the previous person. Because the first love is intense I think there will always be a special place for your "first love" in your heart for quite a good amount of time.


Now I have rest my case and the floor is all yours. What do you guys think can you truly and only fall in love once?


My current 10


1. I'm fired up for the weekend
2. I had a blast at my vacation and I bless God for keeping my family closer than ever before 
3. Getting ready for layering again...I love my blazers but so not looking forward to winter
4. A week from now my last semester as an undergrad starts
5. God is too faithful and His will and my desires are gradually unfolding
6. I feel so old been 10110 and miss been 10101
7. I don't know while i felt like writing in binary
8. Give us clean hands is currently on my ipod replay
9. Not looking forward to moving back to campus to move out in 3 months
10. I love my life and the people in it including my bloggers and followers

Celebrating Women - Part 3

I Love my Body + Body Image

I really am fat and ugly and don't care what other people think of it. I think my body is completely disgusting so I avoid looking at it as much as possible

To you this stage may have past but I know their are still million teens, 20+ and even 30+ who struggle with body image. Sadly I hear the above quote constantly around campus and from many females in general. We have come to an era in which technology is booming and the media want you and I to look like a doll with  blond flowing long hair, blue eyes, perfect lip, face and curve  at the right places. The society expect you and me to have the perfect body, perfect make up and perfect cloth so we run like crazy women to the store to buy product that will make us look like the model but only to steal away our joy after days of product not working the "miracle." The society force you and I to spend countless hours in the Gym to shed away extral 30+ pounds to get to the ideal weight. Everything is all to be blame on the society but then who is the society?  It is me and you!

SO HOW DID YOU FEEL AFTER SEEING THESE VIDEOS?

Do you Love your body?

Every woman to her own body...Growing up I have always struggled with weight; I was never overweight but more like underweight. I could eat everything in the whole house and still not gain a thing. It was always hard to gain weight but I could loose 10 pounds within a week or 2 without any exercise.  I remembered at 12 my mom had traveled to Nigeria first time in my life she had ever traveled for more than a and I lost about 20 pounds because I missed her (Yup momma's girl) and fast forward 8 years I never gain that 20 pounds back. Coming to college was my hardest struggle, when people who don't know me where talking all nonsense about me been thin. For a time it hurt but eventually I did snap out of it and became very comfortable in my size 2 skin. As mentioned in Unbroken love I still get very excited to gain weight after all my resolution is 10 pounds for the year, regardless of what happen  though I LOVE MY BODY!

The biggest problem I have come to realize after joining several women/ladies group is that we young ladies tend to be very harsh on one another. We do not appreciate each other much but rather criticize. How many times have you walked down the street and told a fellow lady you have nice eyes, curve etc? 

Join me in celebrating Womanhood!  We are tall, we are short, we are wide, we are skinny; we are heavy; we have got curve, spoon, hourglass, cone, and ruler; My face is oblong, oval, round, rectangular, square, heart, triangular, and diamond; our hair is long, short, straight and curly. we are smart, we are  intelligent, we confident, our self-esteem is high, and we have got motives because our body is the  temple of Christ....We are women, We are beautiful; We are comfortable in our skin and no matter the shape and size We LOVE our bodies.

Remember to smile when you look at the mirror because you are BeautiFULL

Self Love: If you don't love your self no one else will

Above all things the father have got the greatest Love for you

As part of women celebration series on my blog you are welcome to share your story on body image or self love as a woman and i shall be itchy to hear it

xoxo
Mz. YSU